Let’s Have an Online Blogging Party!

Hey everybody! Today my stat counter tells me I’ve had over 10,000 visitors to this site in the last year! Can you say, “super DUPER cool”?

To honor the event I’ve added a search bar to the right, a little trick I learned in a workshop at BlogHer. Bryan was WAY turned on by my technical prowess, which may get me a little ‘link love’ tonight if you know what I mean….

In the Words of Mase: Breathe, Stretch, Shake, Let It Out

Last week on a complete whim, I ducked into a yoga class at the gym. I was on the treadmill feeling unmotivated, bored, and mentally distracted. I am always mentally distracted. I am thinking about what should have been, I am worried about the future, but very rarely am I focused on the moment.

It was 9:55 and I knew a class started at 10. Had I more time to think about it I wouldn’t have gone. I would have talked myself out of it for reasons of self preservation. If I don’t go, I can’t feel stupid for not knowing the downward dog, right?

But before I knew it I was in. Drawn in. And the instructor asked if there were any first time to yoga, and I raised my hand along with the gal next to me. I wasn’t the only one.

Within five minutes my body was tingling as the oxygen of my deep and rhythmic breathing reached places previously deprived. For an hour I breathed. I stretched. I balanced. I pushed energy out my heals, out my fingertips, out my ‘sitz bones.’ By the end I felt calm and relaxed, yet energized.

I made it to yoga again today, and I am officially hooked. Yoga is kind to my twisted spine of stress and distracted mind. It supports me in my recovery from insanity, like a climber’s stake wedged into the side of a cliff. God, friendship, family, hope – they are all stakes that make the occasional freefall less traumatic.

Christy at Dry Bones Dance writes:

“My body remembers things, and I’m discovering that I carry certain kinds of trauma in particular parts of my body, bad things that are just now working themselves up to the surface of my skin. That may not make any sense to you, but trust me – some experiences sink all the way into our bones.”

I am learning that no spiritual journey is without its physical challenges. We eat, we starve, we purge, we rage, we neglect. But we can’t ignore the creation in our search for the Creator. As I seek healing for my mind, I seek also healing my for body.

Remember Sammy Davis Junior and his glass eye? Now I know how he felt.

Wearing these soft contact lenses is what I imagine a starfish might feel like clinging to my eyeball – they cling with suction cups and don’t move until I pry them off. When I dig my fingers into my eye sockets each night and pinch my fingers together, I pray I come out with only the flimsy contact and NOT my entire eyeball.

They are dry, they don’t float on my eye at all, and when I take them off at night my eyeballs take a good long stretch with a big yawn and an ass scratch.

I’m EXTREEMLY grateful that my optometrist just happened to have a pair of lenses in my prescription at his office so I didn’t have to endure my thick glasses all weekend at BlogHer, but I’m ready to get back into my trusty rigid gas permeables again. They float, they breathe, they pop out easily without any prodding – they are the playful dolphins of the contact world.

Blogging Etiquette – Comment Reply or Email Response?

Comments

There was much discussion at BlogHer around the community of the blogging world, built largely through commenting on other sites, responding to comments on your own sites, linking to one another, and so forth.

One question I forgot to ask in the many sessions I attended was regarding comment etiquette. When someone new (or regular, for that matter) comments, is it best to acknowledge or respond to that comment within the comments of that post? Or is it more appropriate to send that person an email response? Or both?

I guess the reason I’m asking is, when you comment on a post, do you typically go back to that post at a later time to see how the conversation has continued? Or do you comment and move on?

My New Blogging Buddies: How I Turned That Frown Upside Down.

Meet Maryam, Jen, and Jen's double chin!I had a great time floating in and out of contact with Maryam this weekend. She just moved back to the Bay Area from Seattle this past month so it hardly seems like we’ve skipped a beat, but I know soon it will sink in that she is gone. I was glad to have so much time with her, and was proud to be sitting front and center during her panel discussion on Next Level Nakedness.

I met Kristin briefly on Friday, then caught up with her again on Saturday. We share a passion for writing and talked over lunch about using our blogs as writing exercises. She filled me in on the Identity and Obligations session, as I wish I would have attended that instead of the Mommyblogging session. I should have listened to my got and not followed the hype.

Through her I met (another) Kristin. This may sound creepy, but when we met I felt like Anne Shirley meeting her kindred spirit. We are snarky about the same things, and I let her son pilfer cheerios from my son’s stroller pockets, and the rest is history.

Kristin’s sister, Jen, also had lunch with us – and yes, that means we lunched together: Jen Squared and Kristin Squared, but I promise it was not prearranged. Jen is a doula which means I instantly liked her. Jen and Kristin the Latter are from D.C. and confirmed my theory that all men from D.C. appear to be good looking because they wear power suits to their very important jobs.

IMG_3345Saturday evening poolside I had drinks with Amy Gahran, Lisa Williams, and Maryam. Amy and Lisa were at BlogHer05 and said the tone was much different this year – in ’05 there was excitement about discovering the multitudes of women bloggers. Amy felt this year’s excitement built on that as women asked, What ELSE can we do? We had a great time comparing Notes on Notes, as Amy titled her post. She does a great job of summing up that conversation so I’ll just let you follow that link! But while you’re still here, check out Amy and Lisa with their notepads!

DeniAfter drinks a group of us went to dinner, including Deni, who seemed like life itself. She almost didn’t come to Blogher because she recently lost her mom, but I was grateful for the opportunity to meet her. She poo poo’d on my days living in and around Times Square, and told me if I ever visited NYC again she would show me the REALLY cool parts of town. The first place I want her to take me is to her favorite breakfast spot. Here she is showing me a picture of her new puppy.

So, in contrast to Day One when I called Bryan in a panic to pick me up for dinner, Robert and Maryam dropped me off in front of my borrowed apartment at 11:45, full of food, drink, and many good memories.

BlogHer Day Two – All About the Conversation

If BlogHer Day One was the Bad Hair Day of social networking for me, then Day Two was the Glamour Shot Day.

I met many wonderful women, had great conversation, and stretched myself as a networker. I don’t have time this morning to fully give my impressions of the day and introduce you to my new friends, as we have a breakfast date with friends and then a plane to catch.

I’ll catch you later tonight.

Blogher Day One – Gigs of Information and Social Awkwardness

Video Blogging Workshop

It’s a funny thing about me – you could have put me in front of a microphone on stage to address all 400 people at Blogher today and I would have stunned you with my articulate genius. I commented freely and confidently in all the sessions I attended. But I couldn’t even manage to introduce myself to the gal I sat next to at lunch today.

Strange, but true. I am an awkward social networker.

Sadly, after said lunch mate turned out to be the session leader for the Ten Types of Web Writing session I attended, I realized I missed out on conversation with a truly hilarious and witty woman.

Oh well, I DID talk to a stranger at the airport, so there is progress in my social networking awkwardness.

On another note, there are two things I would never want to be perceived as. One, is a tourist – I will go to great lengths to look like a local when traveling.

Two, is a fan-girl. I’m not really into celebrity. I’d much rather chase fire engines for excitement. But when I saw Heather Armstrong across the room – in real life – my reflexes kicked in and my arm shot out in front of me with camera in hand. The picture nearly snapped itself.

This is me photo stalking Heather Armstrong

It was an exciting, information-filled day, and I’m very grateful to be here. I will get a decent night’s sleep and try to be less awkward tomorrow!

Live Blogher Blogging – Ten Types of Web Writing

[live blogging – please excuse typos, grammar, and lack of links]

10 Types of Web Writing: And how to execute them professionally. Lisa Stone and Lynne D. Johnson walk you through everything from short-form sign post blogging to long-form essay blogging.

Lynn Johnson
Fastcompany.com editor
Lynndjohnson.com

Lisa Stone
Hard print writer & editor

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Conversationswithdina.com – engaging readers in conversation, dialogue

“I write because I want to, I can, and I must” crossleft.org

Ten types of web writing

1. readers
2. presentation
3. word choice
4. conversations
5. headines
6. attribution
7. link blogging
8. essay blogging
9. question and answer
10. reviews and how-tos

First four most change in mindset from print – when a reader picks up a magazine, they know what to expect. When they find your blog, they don’t know who you are or what you’re about.

The words we write today have more impact than ever before because of internet media.

Is wrting for the web an art or a science? BOTH

Are… our words are our identity online
Science…

READER

How effective a writer are you? Ask someone in your audience.

PRESENTATION
How does it look on the page?
How connecting with the reader visually?
Down drown your blog in text!!!

WORD CHOICE – even in headlines
“funny ha-ha or funny peculiar?” –betsy devine
Clarity
Professionalism
Voice
Punctuation
Profanity – to swear or not to swear?
Buzz

CONVERSATIONS
Do you want to have one or not?
How important are the conversations to you?
Open comments or closed comments?
Verymom.com
Closed comments isn’t really a blog, it’s publishing, or content-provider
… or is it? Much discussion.
Exchange of ideas

HEADLINES
Clear
Interesting

ESSAY BLOGGING
Some do not have comments, use more as a publishing tool
Academic
Storytelling
Story arc

QUESTION AND ANSWER
Mommybloggers.com

REVIEWS AND HOW-TOs
Format
Lots of white space

BUZZ
Use of celebrity names, subtle, not contrived

Live Blogher Blogging – Building an Audience

[Live Blogging – please excuse typos, grammar, and lack of linking]

Audience Building
Elise Bauer talks traffic: how to build it, how to understand your site statistics, how to optimize your site to build search engine traffic, how to use syndication and subscriptions to build recurring traffic…the works!

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These are the opinions of Elise Bauer, and things that have worked for her, not ‘shoulds.’

3 Major pillars for building traffic
– content
-community
-technology

CONTENT should be…
Useful (most important)
Entertaining
Timely
… or all three.

Usability gives your site legs – makes it an asset

Think about where your skills are, and how they can be used

Tips on content…
Focus on a topic so a community can develop around that shared interest

Post frequently, but not at the expense of quality. Must be compelling, interesting, well written.

Use images & photos – helps break up monotony of text on a page

Write well – concise. Long rambling posts hard to follow. Short paragraphs, short posts, etc.

Headlines – witty and entertaining, or use good google search terms

Be excellent at what you do/know.

Must be passionate about your topic, so that it compels you to do/be well

COMMUNITY

Link out to other bloggers – blog rolls, in posts. Connect with others who share your interests.

Leave comments on other blogs – participate in community. We all love comments!

Plan/join online events. (i.e. blog carnivals)

Contribute to the community

How to find your blog?
1. from someone else’s website
2. search engine
3. bookmarks from repeat visitors (update url changes or you’ll lose these)
4. newsfeeds (bloglines, etc)
5. del.icio.us, technorati, or other tagging tool
6. press
7. someone forwarded your url to someone else (can build that in to each post through wordpress)

PAGE RANK – what contributes

1. links from other sites
2. text based content (not flash or images)
3. links from high page ranked sites
4. use of keywords in title or text
5. good html structure (header tags, etc) – better to put something in a header tag than a bold tag

what detracts?
1. links to link-farms, spam sites, or pages with spam in it anywhere.
2. 404 errors – links that go to pages that don’t exist

SITE DESIGN
Image size (under 15.5k)
Page length and size (under 100k – including images)
Readable font size on many different platforms and browsers
Reduce clutter
Avoid colored backgrounds – black print on white ideal
Eye-tracking study (focus on upper left corner)
Search bars so people can find content – don’t assume people are only interested in the front page.
Categories – make content easy to find
Screen resolution – 800 x 600
Make it easy for dial-up users!

RSS

Google.com – personalized google
Adding tool for people to add your feed
Feed readers
**Feedburner – can publish your feed, offers statistics of what content people are clicking on
**Feedblitz – allow you to publish feed as an email, for less technical savvy people who would rather get an email.

PROMOTE YOUR FEED
Add buttons: google, yahoo, bloglines, etc
Tags: technorati, del.icio.us, flickr
**claim your blog in technorati and start using tags

MEASURING SITE TRAFFIC

Visitors
Page views
Referrals
Search engine bots represent 5-15% of your numbers

What stats to care about?
# subscribers
# visitors
Page views
Who is linking to you?

Live Blogher Blogging – Workshop #1

Session 1

[Live Blogging – Please excuse type and grammar errors and lack of links!]

Day One: So, you have this crazy idea…

You want to start a community-based blog site, but aren’t sure where to start. Melanie Morgan, Nancy White, Susannah Gardner & Lauren Gelman are among those who will help you examine what’s out there, define what you can do differently, and create a plan to develop content, promote your efforts and watch your back.

Nancy the chocoholic: Brought chocolate to share – Community is giving to others without expecting anything in return!

Only one person in the room didn’t have a blog

How many people involved in community through blogs?

Laurn Gelmen – community blog re women’s issues within male-dominated law school
Starting a community blog: focus the site – i.e. is somebody else already doing it or are you providing a unique voice? For instance, many women’s issues blogs, but are there any community blogs for women in law school? This is more specific.

Discussed how they can leverage their blog to make a difference for women within the law profession.

Melanie Morgan – New Media Collective
Social network for people of color in digital media marketing – SPECIFIC ISSUE

Susannah Gardner
Constantly renewing community because people come in to connect, get what they need, then they move on.
Networking and facilitating connections.

Nancy White
March of Dimes – Share your story: families with babies in neonatal intensive care
Largely non-bloggers who started to blog through this community
Had to learn and become internet savvy – i.e. not a good idea to post cute pictures of your naked toddler

Patterns in blog communities
1. One blog/one blogger – through allowing comments, these bloggers often are the bridge for others to find their voice and begin their own blogs
2. Boundaried Community – inviting in other voices
3. Central Connecting topic/group – intersection of blogs

What is the social interaction? Who controls the tools? That person/group holds the power.

Topics – of small groups
1. Getting the crazy idea – how do I develop a community?
2. Tools, tracking, marketing, creating the platform
3. Feeding your community over time
4. keep yourself out of trouble – legal issues
Assignment: capture the best idea you hear to share

Small Group #1:

Community blog ideas:
People with illnesses to connect
WHAT’S THE PURPOSE OF THE COMMUNITY?
– for the individual
– for the community

“My blog is a way to get crap off my chest in a public way – I have to own it” – cathy

Blogging vs message board
– Forums, you can pop in and out with comments / less about the individual’s identity, more about the community
– Blogging needs to be sustained / more about identity

Talk to the potential community about what THEY want
Purpose may change over time

Being responsive to each other is the value that drives the community – comments important

Use of surveys – Masterful question writers can get good survey results – need to know how to ask the right questions

Ideas: Skype-casts first Friday of the month for community participants

Meme’s draw community in, like “day in the life” from papernapkin.com

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[updated for second group]

Small Group #4

concerns for sites with other people publishing on it –
– copywrite – make someone on your site in charge of copywrite violation information (i.e. an email to send information re the infringement so it can be investigated)
– porn
– libel

What is your site? More like a newspaper (liable for content), or like Yahoo (not liable for content)

Key words for libel (when you write) /slander (when you speak)
-say something that can be proven factually inaccurate = libel (saying joe is gay (libel), vs joe is an asshole (not libel))
– must prove that what is said is false
– possible okay phrases “in my opinion” “I think” – but you can still get in trouble if you say, “I think joe is gay.”
– different test for a public figure: not only prove it was a false statement, but that you KNEW it was a false statement and that it harmed them.

Regarding a grassroots rally for a cause to make change (i.e. pressuring insurance companies to change policy) – posting an email address or business address for sending correspondence is okay, as long as you are not encouraging assault or libel.

Things He Does to Say ‘I love you.”

[Is it, Things He Does? or Things He Do? or, is there really no way to make sense of that?]

We’re staying in Palo Alto this weekend, at an apartment of one of Bryan’s friends while he’s out of town. After eating some take-out Chinese, Bryan went to the store to buy milk and cereal for breakfast in the morning.

After he’d already left I remembered I needed a new box of panty liners, which I wear every day because during childbirth my vagina opened like a blooming flower and now my Kegel muscles hang like limp, forgotten spaghetti.

I called his cell and told him what I needed, and he’s like, yeah, yeah, I know, panty liners. He’s SO okay with buying my female goodies that he gets cocky about it.

Twenty minutes later my phone rings and he’s talking in a hushed and muffled voice, “So, which ones did you need again?”

“Always.”

“Yeah, I know, but there’s like a million kinds.”

“Always, with the dry weave.”

“Ah…… oh, here. In the purple box?”

“Yeah.”

“50 regulars or 40 extra long?”

“Hm, I’ll try the long.”

“Okay.”

Happy Anniversary, baby. You’re the best!