Comments on: Learning from the Little Things http://www.thispile.com/archives/learning-from-the-little-things One Woman, Many Piles, Much Grace. Tue, 07 Oct 2008 03:51:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Aaron http://www.thispile.com/archives/learning-from-the-little-things#comment-11561 Aaron Wed, 28 Mar 2007 21:32:58 +0000 http://www.thispile.com/archives/learning-from-the-little-things#comment-11561 I spend a lot of time evaluating my weaknesses as a parent. husband. individual...its a real wrap around the axle. And it strikes me that the truly amazing times I have with my son...my spirit boy...are the times when we are in a bi-directional dance of acknowledging and accomodating each others weaknesses - instead of getting hung up on our own. When I'm frustrated and he wants to show me something...its the hand on my shoulder he adds at that time because he knows I need it in order to interact at that point. Or when a point I'm trying to make is interrupted by his analysis of his newest tank fish and we explore the tangent fully, accomodating the attention issue. (Often finding the interrupted point was a charge up a meaningless hill for everyone but me.) These are the mulligans we both need. Kids give them easily...me...not enough. They undertand my behavior as if hair color. and I see theirs as an opportunity for improvement. I know I have the job to guide and teach...but I often forget about my obligation to allow.... I spend a lot of time evaluating my weaknesses as a parent. husband. individual…its a real wrap around the axle. And it strikes me that the truly amazing times I have with my son…my spirit boy…are the times when we are in a bi-directional dance of acknowledging and accomodating each others weaknesses - instead of getting hung up on our own. When I’m frustrated and he wants to show me something…its the hand on my shoulder he adds at that time because he knows I need it in order to interact at that point. Or when a point I’m trying to make is interrupted by his analysis of his newest tank fish and we explore the tangent fully, accomodating the attention issue. (Often finding the interrupted point was a charge up a meaningless hill for everyone but me.)

These are the mulligans we both need. Kids give them easily…me…not enough. They undertand my behavior as if hair color. and I see theirs as an opportunity for improvement. I know I have the job to guide and teach…but I often forget about my obligation to allow….

]]> By: Stephanie http://www.thispile.com/archives/learning-from-the-little-things#comment-11105 Stephanie Wed, 21 Mar 2007 00:00:08 +0000 http://www.thispile.com/archives/learning-from-the-little-things#comment-11105 Jen you are such an inspiration. The way you can write about your experiences is truely wonderful. I love that you have this venue to do just that because it keeps me connected to you. :) Jen you are such an inspiration. The way you can write about your experiences is truely wonderful. I love that you have this venue to do just that because it keeps me connected to you. :)

]]> By: Dacia http://www.thispile.com/archives/learning-from-the-little-things#comment-11008 Dacia Mon, 19 Mar 2007 20:13:39 +0000 http://www.thispile.com/archives/learning-from-the-little-things#comment-11008 amen! amen!

]]> By: Jen http://www.thispile.com/archives/learning-from-the-little-things#comment-10794 Jen Sat, 17 Mar 2007 02:13:19 +0000 http://www.thispile.com/archives/learning-from-the-little-things#comment-10794 Wow. That was really beautiful Jen. I closed my eyes and prayed it would be the same with Noah. My beautiful, daring, and right now very frustrated child. Wow. That was really beautiful Jen. I closed my eyes and prayed it would be the same with Noah. My beautiful, daring, and right now very frustrated child.

]]> By: Carrie http://www.thispile.com/archives/learning-from-the-little-things#comment-10762 Carrie Fri, 16 Mar 2007 22:03:18 +0000 http://www.thispile.com/archives/learning-from-the-little-things#comment-10762 Wow, I am amazed at how similar our experiences/challenges/journeys are. I too, have a child just like me (and there is no biological connection, go figure). I too have often wondered "why?" Well, if it weren't for the challenges of this one child, I wouldn't be where I am today, learning so much about myself, seeking the professional help that I need. Hearing you talk about how Ruthie "disciplines" her bear in a manner that doesn't include the swearing and such, gives me hope that I am not damaging my babies, my gifts from God with my bursts of anger that often contain swearing etc...I hvae hope. I have hope that my kids will draw from this experience only the functional aspects of my life (if there are any) and not the dysfunctional that I am still trying to figure out exactly what all those are. So, once again, THANK YOU for sharing your life with us. Wow, I am amazed at how similar our experiences/challenges/journeys are. I too, have a child just like me (and there is no biological connection, go figure). I too have often wondered “why?” Well, if it weren’t for the challenges of this one child, I wouldn’t be where I am today, learning so much about myself, seeking the professional help that I need. Hearing you talk about how Ruthie “disciplines” her bear in a manner that doesn’t include the swearing and such, gives me hope that I am not damaging my babies, my gifts from God with my bursts of anger that often contain swearing etc…I hvae hope. I have hope that my kids will draw from this experience only the functional aspects of my life (if there are any) and not the dysfunctional that I am still trying to figure out exactly what all those are.

So, once again, THANK YOU for sharing your life with us.

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