Comments on: I Declare Today as “Childish Behavior Tuesday.” http://www.thispile.com/archives/i-declare-today-as-%e2%80%9cchildish-behavior-tuesday%e2%80%9d One Woman, Many Piles, Much Grace. Thu, 08 Jan 2009 19:01:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Dacia http://www.thispile.com/archives/i-declare-today-as-%e2%80%9cchildish-behavior-tuesday%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1#comment-969 Dacia Wed, 12 Jul 2006 22:01:16 +0000 http://www.thispile.com/?p=314#comment-969 that was excellent advice. that was excellent advice.

]]> By: Jen http://www.thispile.com/archives/i-declare-today-as-%e2%80%9cchildish-behavior-tuesday%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1#comment-959 Jen Wed, 12 Jul 2006 14:27:17 +0000 http://www.thispile.com/?p=314#comment-959 [... it deprived my child of his audience....] That's huge. I get that. I need to remember that. I have given myself time-outs before, but sometimes I forget. I get into a zone of needing to make a point, and then I lose all perspective. [...I know how I’m supposed to ‘parent’ and then there’s reality...] Amen, sista. [... it deprived my child of his audience....]

That’s huge. I get that. I need to remember that. I have given myself time-outs before, but sometimes I forget. I get into a zone of needing to make a point, and then I lose all perspective.

[...I know how I’m supposed to ‘parent’ and then there’s reality...]

Amen, sista.

]]> By: charlotte http://www.thispile.com/archives/i-declare-today-as-%e2%80%9cchildish-behavior-tuesday%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1#comment-956 charlotte Wed, 12 Jul 2006 08:48:16 +0000 http://www.thispile.com/?p=314#comment-956 Both of my kids were like that; the 6-yr STILL does it (especially when he's mad), although now we can talk about it and use words. What worked for me was to give myself a 'time-out'. I used that terminology outloud so the kids could learn that mommies have breaking points too and sometimes we need a few minutes to regain control of our emotions. My oldest son has a rage problem too (poor impulse control and a lot of frustration) and now he goes voluntarily to his room when he starts getting worked up about something. I would go to my room or bathroom and just lock myself in for about five minutes. It gave me time to cool off and breathe so I wasn't raging (sometimes I just cried out the frustration and anger) and it deprived my child of his audience. When I came back, he had usually gotten tired of the game and moved on to something else. But kids know how to push our buttons. And none of us are perfect. I know how I'm supposed to 'parent' and then there's reality. Especially when you're doing it solo. Give yourself a hug for all the things you did right today, including recognizing that raging at Ruthie was not the most effective way of dealing with her, and then try again tomorrow. :) Both of my kids were like that; the 6-yr STILL does it (especially when he’s mad), although now we can talk about it and use words. What worked for me was to give myself a ‘time-out’. I used that terminology outloud so the kids could learn that mommies have breaking points too and sometimes we need a few minutes to regain control of our emotions. My oldest son has a rage problem too (poor impulse control and a lot of frustration) and now he goes voluntarily to his room when he starts getting worked up about something.

I would go to my room or bathroom and just lock myself in for about five minutes. It gave me time to cool off and breathe so I wasn’t raging (sometimes I just cried out the frustration and anger) and it deprived my child of his audience. When I came back, he had usually gotten tired of the game and moved on to something else.

But kids know how to push our buttons. And none of us are perfect. I know how I’m supposed to ‘parent’ and then there’s reality. Especially when you’re doing it solo. Give yourself a hug for all the things you did right today, including recognizing that raging at Ruthie was not the most effective way of dealing with her, and then try again tomorrow. :)

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